tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9200656260636750560.post4982795630679666293..comments2023-10-06T03:29:24.930-07:00Comments on Land of Letters.: Fear and Loathing in Fremantlesharon Morrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15492764403059640967noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9200656260636750560.post-84801987444417733292011-02-24T01:59:15.896-08:002011-02-24T01:59:15.896-08:00HI secret sunshine, no they have'nt made me fe...HI secret sunshine, no they have'nt made me feel guilty because I usually dont tell them (sshhh!)<br />I really like your comment.sharon Morrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15492764403059640967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9200656260636750560.post-31803947442936582902011-02-24T00:17:28.659-08:002011-02-24T00:17:28.659-08:00Oh wow, tears welled up when I read this. I am so ...Oh wow, tears welled up when I read this. I am so sorry you have been made to feel that way! I mean I sincerely hope no one is actually guilting you about your decisions, I know not being able to realistically follow every helpful suggestion is enough to drive you bonkers.<br /><br />I will offer you my words of comfort- my son attends a little center with a lot of College grad students working under the supervision of certified ABA behavioral therapists. They are very committed to ABA principles and also encourage ignoring problem behavior to eliminate it and expecting certain obedient behavior from my son, but your very examples you mentioned in your post would be areas they often bend for him and other students. They often will scoop up and hold a sobbing child, and often reinforce requests even if a child did not make eye contact. Not because they are lazy- just because sometimes the goal is peace. Without peace at least SOME of the time, how can there be progress? For what it is worth, I think holding your family together should be prioritized above making every situation an ideal learning environment for your son. I think you are doing just fine.Secret Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13943092904078123645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9200656260636750560.post-27562504826293684632011-02-23T15:06:35.505-08:002011-02-23T15:06:35.505-08:00Thanks to you both for your comments. It's a r...Thanks to you both for your comments. It's a relief to know other mums are struggling with this too. It's easy for me to think I'm not doing enough, and I probably could do more but the result may be counterproductive for all involved.sharon Morrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15492764403059640967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9200656260636750560.post-76835403274806358532011-02-23T08:35:05.238-08:002011-02-23T08:35:05.238-08:00I hear you! We've had plenty of good suggestio...I hear you! We've had plenty of good suggestions that only work if you're hyper-focused 24/7 and have nothing else going on in your life. Thank goodness for BB's doctor who told me last week "You should always give in to him in public to avoid a scene" and I thought "Yippee! THAT I can do". <br />See, there are professionals who get it :)autismandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08639886249223327022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9200656260636750560.post-43448402072476897932011-02-23T04:10:22.918-08:002011-02-23T04:10:22.918-08:00Hi Sharon,
Just wanted to say I'm relieved I&#...Hi Sharon,<br />Just wanted to say I'm relieved I'm not the only one. I want to help my son, I really do, but between school and kindy and work, being a wife, taking care of the house, trying to maintain grown up friendships, the therapy ball often gets dropped.<br />Thanks for sharing.shan_wags80https://www.blogger.com/profile/15722426298773501774noreply@blogger.com